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Wednesday, 3 September 2014

When do they Stay Dry? #ToiletTraining #Help

When do they Stay Dry?

Little man is 4 now and toilet training is proving to be a bit of a nightmare. He's not in nappies during the day, he hasn't been for the past year or so but he is at night time. I'm getting worried that he's too old to be still wearing them in bed but then I think, How old is too old?

Even during the day is proving to be so much hard work. He is constantly wetting himself, surely he shouldn't be still doing this at his age. We have ups and downs, he can go for weeks without a single accident but then he has weeks where he wets himself every day. 

Last year in Nursery he did ok, he'd go to the toilet by himself but needed reminding quite often. It was acceptable to send in a bag of spare clothes when he was there as lots of children his age had accidents every now and again but tomorrow he will starting Reception which is a whole new ball game. I'm so scared of what's going to happen there, will they remind him enough about going to the toilet or will they just leave him until he wets himself.

I can't take in a bag of spare uniform, that would be silly. He's a big boy now. He doesn't seem to understand why I'm getting so upset with him lately, he doesn't seem bothered. I don't get why he is being so lazy. Yes, I understand that sometimes he might be busy playing and not want to leave what he is doing but how do I get him to understand that he has too?

Most Mummies will be waving their kids off tomorrow worrying about how they will get on whilst I will be there worrying about whether he's going to wet himself or not. I know I'm going to have to have that awkward conversation with his new teacher, the one where I ask her if she can please remind him to go frequently. Is this normal at his age or am I alone?

My girls were very different, they were both out of nappies completely by now but people keep telling me that boys are different to girls when it comes to toilet training.

What can I do to get him out of nappies at night? How do I get him to go to the toilet and stop wetting himself? If you have any advice please do leave it below, I'm running out of ideas. 

The worst part is, I feel like he's the only one doing this and I'm embarrassed to ask the other playground mums incase he is. I'm hoping we're not alone on this one, I really am.

6 comments:

  1. My friend told me the other day that they need to develop a hormone for them to be able to wake themselves up if they need a wee at night. My lg turned 3 a month ago and she has always been a heavy wetter so the thought of training through the night is a bit daunting. I started ppotty training her a few months ago (I did try earlier when she'd only just turned 2 and she just wasn't ready) and she started doing really well but then suddenly reverted and i feel like she was just being lazy. However suddenly the last week or so and now she's gone back to nursery she is doing much better again so I hold out hope soon she won't need a big bag of spare clothing anymore. Maybe joining reception will be what your little boy needs to finally be accident free. I do know friends with boys the same age who still have accidents, so please don;t feel you are on your own. You will get their in the end. I hope we do too! xx

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    1. Thank you so much for your reply, It's a huge relief to hear that I'm not alone on this. I've packed some spare pants in the bottom of his PE bag for tomorrow just incase but fingers crossed he will be ok. If not straight away then real soon xx

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  2. At night I'd just make sure he's drank enough after his tea then only have a small drink before bed and go to the potty before going to sleep. That's what I'm starting to try. xx

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    1. He goes to bed with half a cup of juice and half a bottle of milk (bad habit) I feel mean and know he will cry if I stop it but I think I'm going to have to for a while to see if it works xx

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  3. As a reception teacher, I just wanted to let you know there are lots of children still in your sons situation. Firstly, it is definitely ok to send in spare clothes particularly pants trousers socks if he is still regularly wetting, most children will have these in case of accidents and the school will definitely be grateful rather than having to search for spare clothes to put him in. Also if you think it's a question of your son needing to be reminded, discuss this with his teacher who will be able to ensure he is regularly reminded.

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  4. My son, who'll be 5 in December, still has the odd accident here and there. He just forgets to go or is too busy doing something else and leaves it to the last minute. He's normally ok during the day but he has his moments and at night he can go weeks without wetting then do it every night for a week!! No idea how I'll get him to stop. He doesn't have a lot to drink before bed, he goes to the toilet before bed. I've tried waking him during the night (even though you're not meant too) but he's so tired and grumpy he won't get up!! No idea what to do really lol. I'm as stuck as you!

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